By Jennifer Seigworth
Family is a blessing for most, however for some it can seem like a curse. More than likely, everyone has experienced difficulty in communicating with certain siblings, parents, in-laws, etc. Different personality types make for interesting and beneficial relationships, but some personality types together are like gasoline to a fire.
Accepting the family member for who they are will go a long way in deciding what type of relationship you will be able to have with them. Do not try to change them.
Attempting to get them to see your point of view is fine, to a point. But, if it causes tension or an argument, then you must re-evaluate the potential for a healthy conversation, and relationship. There are times you will find family members who are simply toxic.
You can only be responsible for your own behavior, so either remove yourself from their presence or ignore them if possible.
Be aware of how a person makes you feel when you are around them as well as what you carry with you afterward. Does the person make you feel judged or overly self-conscious in the present moment as well as long after the encounter?
You may need to prepare yourself to confront the issue with them. Letting them know what you will tolerate sets boundaries. Your well-being is at stake.
If you feel like isolating yourself from family gatherings because of one or two members, remind yourself that there are many more enjoyable family members than the few negative ones.
Your family needs to see you as much as you need to see them. Time passes so quickly, and we need to surround ourselves with positive relationships.
Having positive family relationships can help with daily life struggles as well as getting us through life’s hardest knocks. It is worth the effort to try to make the relationships work.